2010年12月30日星期四
Best of Gay Kisses 3
1 The Broken Hearts Club: A romantic comedy/Le club des coeurs brisés (0:01/0:09)
Andrew Keegan/Timothy Olyphant
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0222850/
2 Sugar (0:10/0:42)
Brendan Fehr/Andre Noble
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0374252/
3 Bedrooms and hallways/Des chambres et des couloirs (0:43/0:52)
Kevin McKidd/James Purefoy
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0126810/
4 A cause d'un garçon/You'll get over it (0:53/1:23)
Julien Baumgartner/Nils Ohlund
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0311943/
5 The wedding banquet/Garçon d'honneur (1:24/1:37)
Dion Birney/Winston Chao
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0107156/
6 Un amour à taire/A love to hide (1:38/2:10)
Jérémie Renier/Bruno Todeschini
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0444518/
7 Le temps qui reste/Time to leave (2:11/2:22)
Melvil Poupaud/Christian Sengewald
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0417189/
8 The Young, the Gay and the Restless/Amour, gloire et gayté (2:23/2:54)
Caleb Campbell/Justin Marchert
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0816160/
9 Latter Days/La tentation d'Aaron (2:55/3:06)
Wes Ramsey/Steve Sandvoss
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0345551/
10 Les chansons d'amour/Love Songs (3:07/3:37)
Louis Garrel/Grégoire Leprince-Ringuet
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0996605/
11 Dude, where is my car?/Eh, mec! Elle est où, ma caisse? (3:38/3:50)
Ashton Kutcher/Seann William Scott
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0242423/
12 Boy Culture (3:51/4:19)
Derek Magyar/Darryl Stephens
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0433350/
13 Another gay movie (4:20/4:35)
Jonathan Chase/Mitch Morris
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0443431/
14 Defying gravity (4:36/5:30)
Daniel Chilson/Don Handfield
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0156460/
15 Mysterious skin (5:31/5:49)
John Ganun/Joseph Gordon Levitt
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0370986/
16 Eating Out 2: Sloppy seconds (5:50/6:18)
James Michael Bobby/Joseph Morales
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0795376/
17 I love you baby (6:19/6:36)
Santiago Magill/Jorge sanz
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0300016/
18 My beautiful launderette (6:37/7:01)
Daniel Day Lewis/Gordon Warnecke
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0091578/
19 King Size (7:02/7:23)
Laurent Artufel/Jonathan Burteaux/Claude Jan
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt1110050/
20 The mostly unfabulous social life of Ethan Green/Ethan Green (7:24/7:47)
Daniel Letterle/David Monaghan
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0424287/
21 I think I do (7:48/8:08)
Alexis Arquette/Christian Maelen
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0125209/
22 Juste un peu de réconfort/A little comfort (8:09/8:33)
Rémi Bresson/Arthur Moncla
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0404165/
23 Total Eclipse/Eclipse totale (8:34/8:55)
Leonardo Di Caprio/David Thewlis
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0114702/
24 In and Out (8:56/9:18)
Kevin Kline/Tom Selleck
http://french.imdb.com/title/tt0119360/
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2010年12月7日星期二
2010年12月1日星期三
2010年11月27日星期六
同志亦凡人的插曲
专辑曲目:
The Season 1
1. Spunk (Synth-Version) - Greek Buck
2. Dive In The Pool - Barry Harris
3. You Think You're A Man - Full Frontal
4. Proud - Heather Small
5. Lovin' You - Kristine W
6. Crying At The Discoteque - Alcazar
7. Suffering - Jay-Jay Johanson
8. Shake Me - Mint Royale
9. Summerfire - B-U
10. Start Rockin' - Antiloop
11. Do Ya (Feel The Love) - Love Inc.
12. Let's Hear It For The Boy - Katty B
13. High School Confidential - Carole Pope
14. Straight To...Number One - Touch And Go
15. Spunk ('Thank You!' Version) - Greek Buck
The Sanson 2
1. Hide U (John Creamer & Stephane K. Creamer Remix Edit) - Kosheen
2. Absolutely Not (Chanel Club Mix Edit) - Deborah Cox
3. Everyday (Hex Hector & Mac Quayle Club Mix) - Kim English
4. Caught Up (Guido Osario Vocal Mix) - DJ Disciple featuring Mia Cox
5. Rising (Original Mix) - Elle Patrice
6. Sneaky One (Original Mix) - Satashi Tomiie featuring Deanna
7. Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger (Pete Heller's Stylus Remix) - Daft Punk
8. Star Guitar (Pete Heller's Expanded Mix) - The Chemical Brothers
9. Miss You (Illicit Remix Edit) - Etta James
10. Plenty (Fade Mix) - Sarah McLachlan
11. Underwater (Mauve's Dark Vocal Mix) - Delerium featuring Rani
12. Beautiful (Calderone After Hour Mix) - Mandalay
The Season 3
Disc: 1
1. Some Lovin' - Murk Vs. Kristine W.
2. At The End - IiO
3. Never (Past Tense) - Roc Project
4. From The Inside - Gioia
5. Walking On Thin Ice - Yoko Ono
6. Native Love (Step By Step) - Divine
7. Viva Colombia (Cha Cha) - Namtrak
8. The Sound Of Violence - Cassius
Disc: 2
1. Loretta Young Silks - Sneaker Pimps
2. Weapon - Matthew Good
3. Infa Riot - Soundtrack Of Our Lives
4. Rough Boys - Pete Townshend
5. Sola Sistim - Underworld
6. Lover's Spit - Broken Social Scene
The Season 4
1. Cue The Pulse To Begin (QAF Theme) - Burnside Project
2. Attitude - Suede
3. I'm The Main Man - Jason Nevins
4. Train - Goldfrapp
5. Love of The Loveless - Eels
6. Scream - Ima Robot
7. You Are My Joy - Reindeer Section
8. Understanding The New Violence - The Uncut
9. Satellite - TV On The Radio
10. If I Were A Man - Andrea Menard
11. 7 Minutes - Circlesquare
12. Sanctuary - Origene
13. Strobe's Nanafushi - Kodo
14. Wonderful Life - Black
The Final Season
1. Scissor Sisters – The Skins
2. Geri Halliwell – Ride It (Hex Hector 12” Mix)
3. DV Roxx – Hardcore Mutha F***a
4. Fatboy Slim – Jin Go Lo Ba
5. Ultra Nate – Free (Jason Nevins Mix)
6. Madeleine Peyroux – Dance Me To The End of Love
7. Charlatans UK – My Beautiful Friend (Lionrock Mix)
8. Superpitcher – Fever
9. P.J. Harvey – This Mess We’re In
10. Marilyn Manson – Personal Jesus
11. DJ Rhythm Presents Soul Theory – Drama (Warren Clark Club Mix)
12. Africanism All Stars – Summer Moon
13. Cyndi Lauper – Shine (Babylon Mix) – Exclusive
14. Heather Small – Proud (Peter Presta QAF V Mix) – Exclusive
2010年11月25日星期四
----I have never been to the water park. -----______. I am going there this aturday. A.Me, neither B. Me, too. C. Neither do I .D. So do I 应该选择哪一个呢
选 C 可用排除法。 A 不用看，这个说法根本不存在。 B和D一般用于肯定回答中，表示对上面的观点或看法表示一致或认同 如，-I would like a cup of tea , what about you ? ＿Me, too. eg2 - i like chinese food ,it is so delicious . --So do I C 用于否定句式中，表“ 我也不”
应该选A 不能选C是因为时态不同前句是现在完成时，后句也应该是现在完成时，而neither do I 是一般现在时. 选项A me, neither在这句里相当于neither have I.
从"have never been to",可以剔除B and D,A应是me,either
意思是一样的 要说的都是'我也不' 只是'neither do I'是反问句 要选C A-如果是Me neither的话还对 但是Me, neither根本不存在 B-和A一样 而且me too要用在正面的回答上 D-so do I要用在正面的回答上
i've never been to me charlene
(ken kirsch ronald miller) hey lady, you, lady, cursing at your life you're a discontented mother and a regimented wife i've no doubt you dream about the things you'll never do but i wish someone had talked to me like i wanna talk to you i've been to georgia and california, anywhere i could run took the hand of a preachman and we made love in the sun but i ran out of places and friendly faces because i had to be free i've been to paradise, but i've never been to me please lady, please, lady, don't just walk away cause i have this need to tell you why i'm all alone today i can see so much of me still living in your eyes won't you share a part of a weary heart that has lived a million lies i've been to nice and the isle of greece while i sipped champagne on a yacht i moved like harlow in monte carlo and showed 'em what i've got i've been undressed by kings and i've seen some things that a woman ain't supposed to see i've been to paradise but i've never been to me (spoken) hey, you know what paradise is? it's a lie a fantasy we create about people and places as we'd like them to be but you know what truth is? it's that little baby you're holding, and it's that man you fought with this morning, the same one you're going to make love with tonight that's truth, that's love sometimes i've been to crying for unborn children that might have made me complete but i, i took the sweet life and never knew i'd be bitter from the sweet i spent my life exploring the subtle whoring that cost too much to be free hey lady, i've been to paradise charlene-i've never been to me
2010年11月23日星期二
High School Students On The Job
We spend four years of our lives attending high school. Going through high school is supposed to prepare us for college and "the real world." Throughout these four years we begin to better understand our choices for college majors, but we don't get presented with the financial and time struggle that we will face. College costs money, along with everyday living. When attending college we become more independent and are faced with the problem of coming up with money and finding a balance between time for work and school. Though it may seem like working through high school is a bad idea, it could better prepare students for "the real world."
Having a job has many benefits. One of these benefits is obvious, earning an income. With an income comes responsibility. When a student becomes an adult, he or she has to learn to depend on their own income, and there is nothing they can do to prepare themselves for that except to begin to get a feel for the responsibilities earning an income brings. Students can gain experience by working through high school. This brings the opportunity to learn how to budget money, which is a vital part of being independent. Budgeting takes a lot of self-discipline and trial and error, but is possible to learn. It is also important for students to start making purchases that result in monthly payments, such as cell phone or car payments. Not only does this give students the ability to establish credit, but also a feel for what having bills is like. These are things that all students need to gain exposure to and begin become experienced with. It would be much more difficult to learn these things when one is dependent on themselves. It raises the risk of struggles with money.
There are many students that have the ability to stay very focused on their educational goals. These students tend to do very well academically and do not need a lot of stimuli to help them get moving. There are other students...
Having a job has many benefits. One of these benefits is obvious, earning an income. With an income comes responsibility. When a student becomes an adult, he or she has to learn to depend on their own income, and there is nothing they can do to prepare themselves for that except to begin to get a feel for the responsibilities earning an income brings. Students can gain experience by working through high school. This brings the opportunity to learn how to budget money, which is a vital part of being independent. Budgeting takes a lot of self-discipline and trial and error, but is possible to learn. It is also important for students to start making purchases that result in monthly payments, such as cell phone or car payments. Not only does this give students the ability to establish credit, but also a feel for what having bills is like. These are things that all students need to gain exposure to and begin become experienced with. It would be much more difficult to learn these things when one is dependent on themselves. It raises the risk of struggles with money.
There are many students that have the ability to stay very focused on their educational goals. These students tend to do very well academically and do not need a lot of stimuli to help them get moving. There are other students...
我们花四我们的生活年就读高中。到高中去，这应该准备大学我们和“现实世界。”纵观这四年，我们开始更好地了解我们的大学专业的选择，但我们没有得到的资金和时间的斗争，我们将面临主办。大学费用的钱，加上日常的生活。上大学时，我们变得更加独立，并与即将到来的与金钱和寻找工作和学校之间的平衡问题时面临的。虽然它可能想通过高中的工作似乎是一个坏主意，它可以更好地为学生准备“真实的世界。”
有一份工作有很多好处。其中一个好处是显而易见的，赚取收入。随着收入而来的是责任。当一个学生成为一个成年人，他或她必须学会依靠自己的收入，并没有什么可以做准备的，而只能够开始得到一个赚取收入的责任带来的感觉。学生也可以透过高中工作经验。这带来了机会学习如何预算资金，这是一个重要组成部分的独立。预算需要自律和反复试验很多，但可以学习。这也是重要的学生开始进行购买，在每月支付，如手机或汽车支付的结果。这不仅让学生有什么法案建立信用的能力，也是一个感觉是怎样的。这些都是需要获得所有的学生接触，并开始成为经历。这将是困难得多学习这些东西的时候一个是对自己的依赖。它提出了用金钱斗争的风险。
有迹象表明有能力留在他们的教育目标非常集中许多学生。这些学生往往会做的非常好学业，不需要很多的刺激，帮助他们开始行动。还有其他的学生...
有一份工作有很多好处。其中一个好处是显而易见的，赚取收入。随着收入而来的是责任。当一个学生成为一个成年人，他或她必须学会依靠自己的收入，并没有什么可以做准备的，而只能够开始得到一个赚取收入的责任带来的感觉。学生也可以透过高中工作经验。这带来了机会学习如何预算资金，这是一个重要组成部分的独立。预算需要自律和反复试验很多，但可以学习。这也是重要的学生开始进行购买，在每月支付，如手机或汽车支付的结果。这不仅让学生有什么法案建立信用的能力，也是一个感觉是怎样的。这些都是需要获得所有的学生接触，并开始成为经历。这将是困难得多学习这些东西的时候一个是对自己的依赖。它提出了用金钱斗争的风险。
有迹象表明有能力留在他们的教育目标非常集中许多学生。这些学生往往会做的非常好学业，不需要很多的刺激，帮助他们开始行动。还有其他的学生...
The Importance Of Money In Life
What were you taught about money as you were growing up? Something like "money doesn't grow on trees", or "money is the root of all evil", or maybe "all rich people are greedy"?
Well, how do you expect to become a success financially if you believe these things? You attract into your life what are thinking about and what you believe. If you think there is not enough money in this world for everyone you will never have enough money. That is called the Law of Attraction.
First of all, believing that "money doesn't grow on trees" is an example of what's called lack or scarcity programming. Our parents taught us that there was never enough money to go around, and that it was not readily available or abundant. But in truth, the universe is very abundant, and there is lots of money to go around for everyone. Just think what you could do if you have so much money how much your heart desires. What wonderful things you could do with it: travel to the countries you have always dreamt of, buy a house you even scared to think about it, attend meditation classes so you could spiritually grow, donate money to your favourite charity, spend more quality time with your family and the list goes on.
The key is to start thinking that you deserve the money and that there is lots of it available for you, and then you can start attracting it into your life. That's abundance thinking, which is the opposite of lack or scarcity thinking. When you start thinking about the abundance the Law of Attraction will do the rest. You do not need to know how it is going to happen just make the first step, first thought. Starting is already winning.
And what about thinking that "money is the root of all evil"? Can you really expect to become a success if you believe that money is the root of all evil? Unless you have a desire to be an evil person, your subconscious will not let you have money if you believe deep down that it is the root of all evil.
By the way, that quote is taken out of context in the first place. It was originally stated as "the love of money is the root of all evil". So it has nothing to do with the money itself.
Now that you understand that, you can start to think that money is in fact good. You can help people with money. You can stimulate the economy with money. Even the most kind-hearted spiritual person, who says they don't need money, can do more to make the world a better place with money than without it.
And what about thinking that "all rich people are greedy"? Well, that creates us versus them, whereby you have labeled all of "them" greedy in your mind. You, on the other hand, are very giving in your mind. That's why you don't have money, because you're not greedy.
Sure, there must be some rich people in the world who are greedy. But there are also poor people who are greedy. There are both rich and poor people who are very giving as well. The amount of money you have has nothing to do with these character traits.
In fact, a lot of rich people got there by not being greedy. Having a giving attitude opens up a flow of money that often brings them more. You will find the same thing... give away money joyfully to a friend, and notice that it comes back to you in some other form. The world needs to be a balance of give and take, and being joyful both as you give and receive will ensure that you always go with the flow.
Well, how do you expect to become a success financially if you believe these things? You attract into your life what are thinking about and what you believe. If you think there is not enough money in this world for everyone you will never have enough money. That is called the Law of Attraction.
First of all, believing that "money doesn't grow on trees" is an example of what's called lack or scarcity programming. Our parents taught us that there was never enough money to go around, and that it was not readily available or abundant. But in truth, the universe is very abundant, and there is lots of money to go around for everyone. Just think what you could do if you have so much money how much your heart desires. What wonderful things you could do with it: travel to the countries you have always dreamt of, buy a house you even scared to think about it, attend meditation classes so you could spiritually grow, donate money to your favourite charity, spend more quality time with your family and the list goes on.
The key is to start thinking that you deserve the money and that there is lots of it available for you, and then you can start attracting it into your life. That's abundance thinking, which is the opposite of lack or scarcity thinking. When you start thinking about the abundance the Law of Attraction will do the rest. You do not need to know how it is going to happen just make the first step, first thought. Starting is already winning.
And what about thinking that "money is the root of all evil"? Can you really expect to become a success if you believe that money is the root of all evil? Unless you have a desire to be an evil person, your subconscious will not let you have money if you believe deep down that it is the root of all evil.
By the way, that quote is taken out of context in the first place. It was originally stated as "the love of money is the root of all evil". So it has nothing to do with the money itself.
Now that you understand that, you can start to think that money is in fact good. You can help people with money. You can stimulate the economy with money. Even the most kind-hearted spiritual person, who says they don't need money, can do more to make the world a better place with money than without it.
And what about thinking that "all rich people are greedy"? Well, that creates us versus them, whereby you have labeled all of "them" greedy in your mind. You, on the other hand, are very giving in your mind. That's why you don't have money, because you're not greedy.
Sure, there must be some rich people in the world who are greedy. But there are also poor people who are greedy. There are both rich and poor people who are very giving as well. The amount of money you have has nothing to do with these character traits.
In fact, a lot of rich people got there by not being greedy. Having a giving attitude opens up a flow of money that often brings them more. You will find the same thing... give away money joyfully to a friend, and notice that it comes back to you in some other form. The world needs to be a balance of give and take, and being joyful both as you give and receive will ensure that you always go with the flow.
什么是你的钱教你成长？像“钱不是长在树上”，或“金钱是万恶之根”，或者“所有有钱的人贪婪”？
那么，你怎么能指望成为一个成功的经济，如果你相信这些东西？你吸引到你的生活有什么思考和你的信念。如果你认为没有足够的钱在这个世界上每个人，你将永远不会有足够的钱。这就是所谓的吸引力定律。
首先，相信“钱不是长在树上”是一个什么样的所谓缺乏或短缺编程示例。我们的父母告诉我们，从来就没有足够的钱去走一走，而且它没有现成的丰富。但事实上，宇宙是非常丰富，有大量的金钱去周围的每一个人。试想，你可以做，如果你有这么多钱多少你的心的欲望。你可以用它做奇妙的事：旅行的国家你一直梦想，买你的房子，甚至害怕去想一想，参加冥想课程，所以你能精神上成长，捐钱给您最喜爱的慈善机构，花更多的美好时光你的家人和这样的例子不胜枚举。
关键是要开始认为你不配得到这笔钱，并且有很多是它为您提供的，然后就可以开始吸引到你的生活。这是丰富的思想，这是缺乏或短缺的思想相反。当你开始谈论的丰富思想的吸引力法则将做休息。你不需要知道它是如何会发生只是踏出第一步，首先想到的。开始是已经赢了。
以为有什么关于“金钱是万恶之源”？你真的希望成为一个成功，如果你认为金钱是万恶之源？除非你有一个愿望，是一个邪恶的人，你的潜意识不会让你的钱，如果你相信在内心深处，它是一切罪恶的根源。
顺便说一下，这句话是断章取义摆在首位。它最初表述为“对金钱的爱是一切罪恶的根源”。因此，它并不涉及金钱本身。
现在你明白这一点，你可以开始以为金钱其实是好的。你可以用金钱帮助的人。你可以用金钱刺激经济。即使是最善良的心灵的人，谁不说，他们需要钱，可以做更多的工作使世界成为一个更好的钱比没有的地方。
以为有什么关于“所有有钱的人贪婪”？那么，我们与他们的创造，即你把所有的“他们”在你的心中贪婪的标记。你，另一方面，很让在你的心中。这就是为什么你没有钱，因为你不贪。
当然，必须有世界上谁是贪婪的一些富有的人。但也有穷人谁是贪婪。同时有，穷人和富人都非常给谁以及。对金钱的大小，与已无关，这些性格特征。
事实上，很多有钱人没有去的贪婪。有放弃的态度开辟了资金流动，往往能给她们带来更多。你会发现同样的东西...钱高兴地赠送给朋友，并注意它还是回到你身边的一些其他形式。世界需要的是一个给予和采取平衡，并成为欢乐的同时，你给予和接受会确保你总是顺其自然。
和改变你从什么你作为一个健康的看法钱教孩子的心态可以让你成为财务上的成功，你应该得到，成为真正的你。
那么，你怎么能指望成为一个成功的经济，如果你相信这些东西？你吸引到你的生活有什么思考和你的信念。如果你认为没有足够的钱在这个世界上每个人，你将永远不会有足够的钱。这就是所谓的吸引力定律。
首先，相信“钱不是长在树上”是一个什么样的所谓缺乏或短缺编程示例。我们的父母告诉我们，从来就没有足够的钱去走一走，而且它没有现成的丰富。但事实上，宇宙是非常丰富，有大量的金钱去周围的每一个人。试想，你可以做，如果你有这么多钱多少你的心的欲望。你可以用它做奇妙的事：旅行的国家你一直梦想，买你的房子，甚至害怕去想一想，参加冥想课程，所以你能精神上成长，捐钱给您最喜爱的慈善机构，花更多的美好时光你的家人和这样的例子不胜枚举。
关键是要开始认为你不配得到这笔钱，并且有很多是它为您提供的，然后就可以开始吸引到你的生活。这是丰富的思想，这是缺乏或短缺的思想相反。当你开始谈论的丰富思想的吸引力法则将做休息。你不需要知道它是如何会发生只是踏出第一步，首先想到的。开始是已经赢了。
以为有什么关于“金钱是万恶之源”？你真的希望成为一个成功，如果你认为金钱是万恶之源？除非你有一个愿望，是一个邪恶的人，你的潜意识不会让你的钱，如果你相信在内心深处，它是一切罪恶的根源。
顺便说一下，这句话是断章取义摆在首位。它最初表述为“对金钱的爱是一切罪恶的根源”。因此，它并不涉及金钱本身。
现在你明白这一点，你可以开始以为金钱其实是好的。你可以用金钱帮助的人。你可以用金钱刺激经济。即使是最善良的心灵的人，谁不说，他们需要钱，可以做更多的工作使世界成为一个更好的钱比没有的地方。
以为有什么关于“所有有钱的人贪婪”？那么，我们与他们的创造，即你把所有的“他们”在你的心中贪婪的标记。你，另一方面，很让在你的心中。这就是为什么你没有钱，因为你不贪。
当然，必须有世界上谁是贪婪的一些富有的人。但也有穷人谁是贪婪。同时有，穷人和富人都非常给谁以及。对金钱的大小，与已无关，这些性格特征。
事实上，很多有钱人没有去的贪婪。有放弃的态度开辟了资金流动，往往能给她们带来更多。你会发现同样的东西...钱高兴地赠送给朋友，并注意它还是回到你身边的一些其他形式。世界需要的是一个给予和采取平衡，并成为欢乐的同时，你给予和接受会确保你总是顺其自然。
和改变你从什么你作为一个健康的看法钱教孩子的心态可以让你成为财务上的成功，你应该得到，成为真正的你。
No matter how old you are, they will never stop fussing over you.
I WAS speaking to a mother who said her toddler used to grip on to her leg when she was trying to leave the house. Going to work was emotionally challenging because she really wanted to be with her son. She did not want to miss out on those growing-up years but the couple had no choice.
They were both working hard to save up money for their child’s education.
Her son is now 15 and she hardly sees him. He uses the house like a hotel, eats the dinners she cooks every night and disappears into his room, far more interested in his computer games than speaking to his mother.
One afternoon while she was at work, she heard he got injured while playing football so she took immediate leave from the office and rushed to the school but this only embarrassed him.
“Mum, it’s no big deal. Why are you here? My friends are going to think I called you.”
So, just when she thought changing diapers, her failed breast-feeding attempts and sleepless nights with a baby screaming his lungs out was the toughest part of motherhood, he became a teenager.
His rebelliousness raised her blood pressure levels and turned her world upside down. There’s a reason why so many books are sold to parents round the globe on how to survive the teenage years.
Becoming a teenager is a challenging time where we try to find our footing in this world. It’s a transition between letting go of childhood and preparing to become an adult. As we fumble or glide through our teenage years, our parents have to adjust to all our changes, some more smoothly than others.
You can probably bet how many parents miss how small and cute their children were, not to mention how much they were needed as brand new parents.
As a kid, I naturally always wanted my parents to be around. This was not always possible. My father travelled a lot for work but he always brought back a small doll for me so that I would know he was thinking of me.
Moreover, as a CEO of a public listed company, it was common for my father’s secretary to take messages on his behalf when he was busy but I always managed to get through. I never realised this was no accident.
He gave specific instructions to his secretary that he would personally tend to my calls, no matter the reason. When you’re five, it’s never anything important but he would take the time to hear me out, even mediating arguments between my sisters from his work desk.
My mother was always, unfailingly there for me. My schedule became her schedule. She would pick me up from school, ferry me to my tap dance classes and was always the first person I would speak to about anything happening in my inner world, until I became a teenager.
By the age of 15, I was already excited to turn 18 so that I could be of legal age, drive a car and become more of an adult. I used to argue with my mother constantly when I couldn’t get my way because I wanted what all teenagers want, and can never have enough of – freedom.
When I turned 18, I remember trying to negotiate a curfew with my mother, “1am is just too early, Mum. I’m not 16 anymore, you know!” as if two years made such a critical difference. When I complained to my father about it, he said: “Even when you’re 60, your mother isn’t going to stop fussing over you. You’ll always be her kid. Might as well get used to it.”
By the time I was 24, I was living on my own and working overseas. I had all the freedom in the world and no more curfews but here’s the irony.
I would spend ages talking to my mother on the phone, looking forward to the sound of her voice, “Jojo, are you eating enough vegetables? And please don’t overdo the gym. Mum saw you in a magazine the other day and you looked so skinny.
“Make sure you have enough carbohydrates and be careful of those high heel shoes you wear. It’s not good for the back!”
And there I was nodding away on the phone, feeling profoundly grateful I had a mother who wasn’t going to stop caring about me.
What made me realise how hard it was to be a mother was by watching someone else’s mother being turned away.
When a girlfriend of mine broke up with her boyfriend and was bawling her eyes out, her mother tried to come into her bedroom to ask her what was wrong and she said: “Go away. Just leave me alone!”
I saw how hurt her mother was as she started quietly backing out of her daughter’s room.
I realised toward the end of my teenage years how important it was to always leave my “door” open because I did not want to be the type of daughter who shut her parents out.
I took the initiative of sharing what was going on in my life from the guy I was dating to what passions I wanted to fulfil in my life and that wall separating teenagers from their parents came down. Trust automatically grew because I kept it real.
I even warned them that they might not always like what they hear. In fact, I bought a magnet on one of my travels, which I stuck on the fridge for my mother. It said: “Mum, I know you’ve always been there for me. You’re forever a step behind me, probably tearing your hair out!”
Even when we take breaks, our parents never do.
The person I am today has everything to do with my parents. The older they get (my father is past 70), the more aware I am of all the sacrifice they have made and how precious they are to me.
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